Are You Experienced?

My friend’s son Dylan is six years old and off-the-charts gifted. He knows this, and has begun to hold himself to impossibly high standards because of it. For instance, he’s learning to play guitar and an absolute natural at it. So my friend took him to see a concert by a local Jazz guitar legend, expecting it to inspire him. …

Weeds

Ask anyone who owns a garden and they will tell you that weeds are a constant battle – and an absolute nuisance. These pesky, seemingly indestructible super plants will take over any patch of dirt if you let them. You can pull them out or whack them down, but like credit card bills and dental plaque, they inevitably spring right …

Painting with Scissors

The years after World War II were not kind to the artist Henri Matisse. The war had cost him his home, his marriage and in a particularly cruel twist of fate – a serious illness had robbed him of his ability to stand or paint. Immobile and unable to work, he became depressed and bedbound. To get out of this …

No Regrets

Bronnie Ware knows a thing or two about regret. She is a palliative care nurse in Australia who spent years caring for patients in the last moments of their lives. She began documenting some of their dying epiphanies in a blog, which later became a popular book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. In it, she writes of …

“No” is A Complete Sentence

One of my clients recently confessed to me that he told a distant cousin who was visiting from out of town, that he had plans to be in Alaska while she was around. A little “white lie” in order to avoid the obligatory “Hey, we should get together and have dinner.” Instead of just coming clean and sharing the simple …

Three Questions

There’s nothing quite like knowing who you are and what you stand for. One startup clothing company in Brooklyn knows all about this. Last year, their company mission statement – dubbed the “Holstee Manifesto” – accidentally went viral, quickly becoming an internet sensation with more than 50 million views in a couple of months. When Holstee turned that message into …

Traveling Light

I have a client who recently stepped back into the dating pool after enduring a painful breakup. She’s smart, witty and attractive – a real “catch” by anyone’s standards. She tried online dating for a while with less than stellar results. She confessed that she found the first few dates awkward and stressful, probably because she attached a lot of …

Rewriting Your Story

Gina slumped into the chair in my office and unloaded all the things that were bothering her – things she wanted us to work on. It was not a short list either. Her boss had overlooked her for promotion several times. At 45, she felt there was an age bias toward younger employees in the company that she that been …

The Monster Under The Bed

One of my clients, Ed, a sales manager, came to see me in a state of barely-controlled panic. A recent round of layoffs at his company had left him with fewer sales agents and even greater demands for bottom-line results, for which he felt personally responsible. “I know there’s pressure in every job,” he said. “But I’ve never felt like …

But I Have To!- Taking Back Personal Power

We make dozens of choices every day of our lives, but a large percentage of those choices are invisible to us. We often think that we have no choices, that we are victims of circumstance. This is the single biggest impediment to personal growth, and I don’t give my clients the luxury of using it. Helping my clients see the …