One of my clients came to see me under orders from his employer. His
last position in sales hadn't worked out too well, and a recent string
of development meetings had failed to produce any successful results.
His boss was concerned and asked would I connect with him, lest he
somehow be sending out the "wrong signals." On the surface at least,
this young man was well-qualified and well-dressed. When I asked how
things were going, he slouched back on the couch in my office and said,
"I'm bored." And how is your boss to work for, I inquired. "My boss?
She's an ass." What about the company, what is the work environment
like? "It sucks." Every question was met with a similar monosyllabic
response: lame, awful, nightmare, and so on. 
Entries Tagged as 'Just show up'
Is there anybody you’re not talking to? Is there anybody you hung up on
or who hung up on you recently? Is there anyone you’re alienated from?
Is there silence in your life that you wish wasn’t there?
Phyllis McGinley captures it best in this Ballade,
“Sticks and stones are hard on bones
Aimed with angry art,
Words can sting like anything
But silence breaks the heart.”
Silence breaks the heart.
With the holidays approaching, is this the right moment for a card or a
visit? Would a phone call help? Maybe yes, maybe no. Only you can decide
if this is the year to reconcile with that person. Only you know if
enough time has gone by. But it’s certainly a valid question, isn’t it?
This past week I heard a song playing in Starbucks that stopped me in my tracks. At first I couldn’t quite place it, but then I quickly recognized the voice of James Maddock, a terrifically gifted singer/songwriter
that I’ve known for years here in New York. He even played at my birthday party once. But hearing him on the radio like this for the first time literally gave me goose bumps. “Ah,” I thought to myself. “He’s arrived!”
As I referenced in my last newsletter, change is difficult for most of us. And trying to alter any hardwired habit usually requires a great deal of courage and individual effort. One of my clients who is about to leave his job recently described to me the feeling of quitting as similar to what he felt when he first went skydiving. The idea was something that he had carefully considered and grew excited about for years. Yet when the actual time came for him to jump, staring out into the abyss below, he was gripped with an unimaginable fear of the unknown. The instructor had to literally push him out the door.
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